Some problems come and go. Others are stubborn. They resist all your efforts to fix them. If you've got one of these problems, you may have found temporary solutions. But it always comes back around.

All stubborn problems share something in common. They are, 100% of the time, not what you think they are. You have mislabeled it, or you're looking at it through the wrong frame, or your explanation for it has failed you. Thinking you know what the problem is, is part of the problem. So the first thing I'll ask you to do, and I'll do it with you, is to embrace the mystery. There is something unknown you have yet to understand about yourself.

The second thing we want to do is to give up any effort to fix it. We would just be trying to fix the wrong thing. Instead of trying to make the problem go away, we're going to do something far more interesting. We're going to deepen your relationship with the problem. The problem is trying to bring you somewhere you've never been. Going deeper is the only way to find out where.

Each of us, over the course of our lives, develops a working model of reality. Our working models of reality determine what we are capable of experiencing, what meanings we give to things, what options we have for responding to life. Your problems, especially the persistent ones, expose flaws in your working model of reality. The beliefs you have, and the concepts you use to make sense of the world, produce problems like yours as a byproduct.

So the third thing we want to do is expose your limiting beliefs, especially the ones that don't even seem to be beliefs. Deconstructing those beliefs still won't solve your problems, but it will dis-solve them. You won't even be able to make sense of them the way you used to.

So that's our plan. Embrace the mystery. Deepen your relationship with the problem. Deconstruct your limiting beliefs. This isn't just about the problem you bring to me. That's just a doorway, a way in. It's about becoming something you didn't know you could be.